We all have a "Kevin" - that inner voice that stirs doubt, questions our capabilities, and sometimes holds us back.
In his inspiring keynote at the Abundium HRD Summit 2024, Dr. Adam Fraser encouraged leaders to rethink their relationship with this inner critic. Instead of letting Kevin undermine your confidence, you can use him as a tool to build resilience, courage, and authenticity in your leadership.
Here are the key takeaways and actionable steps for transforming your relationship with Kevin.
The first step is awareness. That nagging voice of self-doubt? Acknowledge it, and give it a name - whether Kevin or something else that resonates with you. Naming this inner critic helps you distance yourself from its influence and recognise its thoughts for what they are: just thoughts, not truths. By identifying Kevin, you take the first step toward managing him, rather than letting him manage you.
As Dr. Adam Fraser explores in his article Don't Believe Everything You Think, it’s vital to question whether Kevin’s voice is truly serving your best interests. Ask yourself: Are these doubts reflective of reality, or are they fear-based assumptions? Reframe Kevin’s criticisms by reminding yourself of your strengths, achievements, and moments when you’ve overcome challenges before. With practice, this reframing builds a more confident, empowered mindset.
Sharing your Kevin moments can foster powerful, relatable connections within your team. When leaders openly acknowledge their inner critics, they demonstrate vulnerability, paving the way for others to feel safe doing the same. This practice not only humanises leadership but also creates a culture of trust and support, where courage becomes a shared value.
Kevin will likely always be part of your internal dialogue, but he doesn’t define you. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would extend to a friend or colleague grappling with self-doubt. Accepting Kevin’s presence while affirming your self-worth can be a transformative step for personal growth and for building stronger relationships with your team.
Take a moment to reflect:
As you navigate your leadership journey, use Kevin not as a barrier, but as a reminder of the strength found in vulnerability and the importance of cultivating an authentic, courageous culture.
To learn more about managing your inner Kevin, check out Dr. Adam Fraser's blog, Don't Believe Everything You Think.
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